Neighbour Parking

[Suef29]

Has anyone had the misfortune of having neighbour disagreements? We have 2 cars and my neighbour has1 (unfortunately we don't have a drive). Now I know that the streets are basically a free zone to park in but we always park our cars in front of our house the best we can which is always within our fence line. Now the neighbour always parks her car about an inch away from ours (she must have to keep getting out the car to check the distance lol) . She could easily park it 10 feet away which would still be in front of her house - Ive tried inviting her round for a tea and to talk about it, but all I get off her is abuse saying I never had any problems before you arrived. The people we bought from had no car. What can I do?

[Roch_55]

Hi Sue,
I bet lots of people are having the same problems with neighbours as we speak, its a difficult one. I think you need to use a firm word with these people as being nice doesnt work, dont invite her around as she obviously doesnt want to be friends. She is obviously trying to cause upset, dont let her get you down!

[Greeny5]

These people do my head in, have they not got a life! If i wa you sue id go n park slap bang in front of her house and see how she likes it ;)

[wallsendwarrior]

Sue, Could you get a non biased neighbour to mediate? This person could get both your sides and then let you both know what he/she thinks.

It sounds like shes had it easy with no cars next door to her though, and now there are she feels like its an invasion of her land. If she wants space tell her to buy a big field and get a tent in the middle of wales.

[julia]

I have had my share of neighbour hell. I moved into a house once with a nice tree in the back garden, and woke up to find my neighbour up it chopping the branches down. He said they were blocking his light. I was only in the house for 3 weeks and had never spoken to the guy. Needless to say we fell out, I honestly dont know where some of these people come from.

[HeederBaal]

Every sunday my neoghbour gets his angle grinder out--been happening for the last 6 weeks...am i in my rights to shove it where the sun doesnt shine... Im supreised the whole of Newcastle cant hear it!:mad:

[jingle]

Hey,

If he continues just call 101 annonamously (cant spell it) and tell them what you neighbour is doing. On Sundays youre not allowed to make excessive noise and before 8am weekdays you cant. You'd have to check out the times allowed on saturdays. Has your neighbour not got a life? Maybe he needs a better woman!:D

[geordiebill]

Ha ha ha, it's a nightmare. My mother is having similar trouble and my Dad has the same where he lives for two completely different reasons. It's difficult to solve.

Where bad street design is to blame, then you just have to make the most of it and be as considerate as you possibly can. To make someone realise how unreasonable they are being, ask them the question, for example:

"Hello Mr/Mr Bloggs, we both know that there is an issue with parking and its only getting worse, to the point where we are falling out over it. We have to live beside each other and we both have as much a right to park where we do, so nobody has any right over the other. But, in the interests of keeping the peace, what would you suggest I do?"

This makes them have to find the solution or accept that there is not a practicable solution. It also affords you the strength and moral high ground in that you have tried to make peace and come to an arrangement.

If they asked you to park round the corner or something, you could say, ok, then we could take turns parking round the corner. They must give also.

If you cannot bring yourself to do this, however, then perhaps the problem lies with your own attitude and stubborness. Once emotions are involved, these problems persist and end up escalating.

[geordiebill]

What I have done myself once, and plan on doing again, is drawing chalk lines on the unmarked tarmac in the back street at the same width of bays at shopping centres.

It's not vandalism as it is a temporary measure and can be blown away, but it stops people taking up two bays, which is one of our problems. The street was never designed 50 years ago anticipating the car levels we have today - sometimes 2 or 3 per family. There's no point getting stressed about that, or anything else really.

We must be adaptable and embrace change. Stress, worry and anger are all negative and drain you. Also, when you tyneside -tyneside -tyneside -tyneside -yse the problem objectively, most of our worries are not worth worrying about. That includes debt, unless it is debt to an illegal source of course.

[bigbaz]

always remember whan i saw a car double parked like that and i pulled one of its wipers off, let its tyre down and put a note under the other saying " park proper next time" I think they would have got the message haah

[daveylad]

I was always wondering who did that to my car! Right I've got your details now!